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10. Being quite “inconsistent” now
… as a result of new things turning up all the time which I attempt to incorporate, plus adjusting one’s view in the light of that … here’s Leah’s summary of the situation:

She’s down specifically on Lutnik right now.
9. Moo corner

8. Marcia Willcox
“When I was 20 years old, I married a 35 year-old man. The first 10 years were wonderful. Eventually, though, I suppose the novelty of my being a young woman wore off. Also, we had kids, and that drew some of the attention away from him. As far as I know, we were faithful to each other, but he just sort of lost interest, and I started chafing because he was acting like an old man at the age of 45. The marriage lasted total of 15 years, then we got divorced. The age difference, which hadn’t mattered much at all in the first 10 years, gradually became significant.
He had married someone who looked like a teenager and was beautiful. But, like all human beings, I aged. I did not get fat or anything and I was still pretty, I just wasn’t as young as I used to be.
As for him, he was sort of always an old man in a young man’s body. He looked older, but most importantly, he acted old. I’ve never been one to care about looks. In fact, I’ve only had one partner in my life that was actually good looking according to western standards. But this guy was only 45 and was acting geriatric. He was a fuddy duddy, didn’t like to go out or have any fun, was grumpy, he acted like a rest home candidate.
So in the end, the age difference did become significant. I don’t know if this will happen in every romance with a significant age gap, but I would urge caution. If you’re asking this question, it could be that you already have doubts. I would carefully consider your next move if I were you.”
Having been in the position of older plus younger at various times (my parents, at 8 years difference were perhaps the limit but there’s was also ethnic … Yorkshire as against Irish) … I’m no stranger to “hetero-ethnic” nor “hetero-age” but only twice “non-western”.
I’ve seen a photo of Marcia, who was on Quora and I’m wondering at hubby’s going off with a young filly (too many men’s folly, as is the cougar and toyboy syndrome). She was fairly straight afa I can see, maybe just as domestically conventional as he was but as she wished more and more for “fun”, excitement, maybe constant travel … well it’s a conjecture.
I do know, right now, a young lady ten years my junior who is into constant travel, almost maniacally so … oh, did I say “a”? I meant two … the first I’ve known since she was zero years old, the other was one year younger in our first summer teenage romance … and we’re still corresponding.
The first broke up with decades long hubby, precisely because he wanted rest, repose, near the end of a working life, which was diametrically opposite to what she wants.
Hmmmmm.





















